We all have our own bag of hammers.
I’ve often attributed the above quote to Michael J. Fox, as I recall him first saying it when he openly discussed his Parkinson’s disease.
My version of the quote is more like, “We all carry our own bag of hammers.”
In essence, I’m referring to the idea that each person has challenges to deal with. I gain perspective when I relate my challenges or listen to someone else relay theirs. Almost everyone sees their challenge as the most important, and recognizing that it is to them also provides the opportunity to move forward and hopefully past your own.
Recognizing these opportunities to grow and advance while helping others overcome their challenges makes carrying these bags of hammers that much easier. By recognizing that another is already holding their bag of hammers, you may also see how to lighten your load and allow another to bear their burdens more easily.
Today, I listened to friends tell me about the challenges they have faced and are facing. Almost immediately, I saw that my bag of hammers has nowhere near the number of sharp edges and hard points that they have dealt with. This does not mean that the challenges I will face are not fraught with some very sharp points and significant hard spots, but they are not quite as sharp or as hard.
The challenges we are dealing with are similar but also much different. I can only hope that a sympathetic ear knocked off a few sharper points they banged up against.